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Equally shared parenting time may not be suitable for all

The pros and cons of shared child custody remain a much-discussed subject. Some people in New Jersey believe that a 50/50 plan for parenting time is disruptive and creates insecurity and anxiety in children, and others believe that children who have equal access to their parents -- even in separate residences -- benefit on multiple levels. However, the success of shared parenting may be dependent on the ability of the parents to maintain an amicable post-divorce relationship.

Another factor that seems to play an important role is the proximity of the residences of the two parents. Children who can keep the same group of friends and activities -- regardless of whether he or she is at mom's or dad's house -- seem to adjust to this way of living just fine. It has also been mentioned that parents who have similar sets of rules, and similar punishments for violations, create a solid basis for well-adjusted children.

Such arrangements often allow parenting time for one parent on the first two days of the week, and the other parent will then have the child on Wednesdays and Thursdays. Weekend parenting is alternated between the parents. In some cases, it is not unusual to see both parents and stepparents supporting a child in sports activities, school plays and other events. However, some parents find shared parenting a challenging experience -- especially when communication between the parents is awkward and tense.

Any New Jersey parent who wants to explore the possibility of shared parenting time may find comfort in knowing that guidance and support are available. An experienced family law attorney can assess the dynamics of a family and with the help of a divorce mediator -- if necessary -- a parenting plan that includes holidays, summer vacations, birthdays and more can be drafted. Nevertheless, shared parenting is not suitable for every circumstances and is not appropriate if it would be contrary to the best interests of the child.

Source: life.familyeducation.com, "Sharing Joint Custody", Accessed on Feb. 5, 2016

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